Managing Social Media During and After Divorce
Going through a divorce is tough. The emotional and legal battles alone can feel overwhelming, but there's another challenge that many of us don't consider until we're knee-deep in it: managing social media.
At first, the temptation to post about my feelings was overwhelming. I had just gone through an emotionally draining experience, and social media felt like an outlet where I could express my frustration. But as I started to draft posts, I realized something crucial—whatever I said online could be used against me.
I recall a moment when I almost posted something personal on Facebook. But I stopped myself. I realized that not only was it unhealthy to air my grievances publicly, but it could also damage my relationship with shared friends. I deactivated my Facebook account, silenced my X notifications, and limited my Instagram activity to the bare minimum.
I needed space, a digital detox. Then I decided to make a more mindful approach to my online presence. I first adjusted my privacy settings across all my social media platforms. I wanted to protect myself from unnecessary drama and avoid people trying to play the role of mediator or judge. This helped me regain some control over who could access my personal life. I also made the decision to limit how much I shared.
The temptation to post new relationships or updates about my personal life was still there, but I had learned my lesson. I decided not to use social media as a public diary. Sure, it’s easy to post about something that makes you happy, but it’s also easy to make a mistake and let your emotions get the best of you.
One of the most important lessons I learned was the power of the mute button. If I saw a post that triggered negative emotions, I simply muted it. I didn't need to see every detail, I needed to focus on my own. At the same time, I understood that social media is a part of life.
It’s how we stay connected with friends, family, and the world. So, I started using it more intentionally. I followed accounts that made me feel good, rather than following people who reminded me of my past. I focused on positive interactions—engaging with groups that shared my hobbies, fitness goals, or career ambitions.
By being intentional about my digital choices, I was able to create a healthier, more positive space for myself after the divorce, rather than letting social media manage me.
Hasib Afzal