Learn Your True Self

Unfortunately it takes a life-altering event for us to realize how far off base we are. In the past I sought to find myself in other people’s opinions but only realized that I was no longer recognizable. You need to be who you are. It really is liberating to cultivate your own voice and pair it with the goals you set your life. 

In order to achieve harmony with self you have to know what you want. That can be difficult to figure out when you are going through divorce. Your emotions will be all over the place. Make a list of goals that you would like to achieve. It should consist of things you desire without outside influences. This is where you get to take control of your life. 

For me there was a desire to stay active because physical activity helps to clear my mind and I just feel better. You have to craft a plan to reach each one of your goals. I found that what I love most was to walk at the beach so I drive down there a few times a week. There are times that I can’t get to the beach so to stay on track I walk in my neighborhood. Be flexible to change your plans to accommodate your goals. 

I have learned that boundaries are your protection. Recently I had travel plans with my ex and the kids. The hotel accommodations were not as we had discussed. This was going to challenge my peace. I decided to get my own room. His opposition to my boundary was not my problem. By acknowledging my needs I was being true to myself. 

I am learning how to honor myself with my truth. It is about connecting with who I am at the core. It’s when I push past all of the things that vie for my attention that I’m able align with self wholly. Settled in the truth of myself is where I can be at peace. 
Ali M

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