Divorce: Things to consider before making the big Decision

Divorce should never be taken lightly; it is a life-changing decision one way or another, but whether it is the correct course of action is something that each individual must weigh up. Not everyone is going to agree with what you have done, but that should not put you off from doing what you feel to be correct. With that in mind, here are some things to consider before deciding whether a divorce is the right thing for you. 

Consider All possibilities 

Before filing the papers, it is essential to bear in mind whether the marriage can be saved. Consider getting close family members to help facilitate a resolution. If that seems too much to deal with, there are other alternatives, such as professional mediation. Going that extra mile might just sway your mind from ending things for good. 

Children

The presence of children is a significant factor in deciding whether to call things off. Parting ways brings into question of who the children will stay with. Setting up co-parenting arrangements outside the court system is not always possible. This is especially true when both sides are living a considerable distance away from each other. In my case, having no children made things a lot easier. I put myself first and realized I needed to go. 

Finances

A divorce is not cheap, particularly when one party has invested so much in it. Getting a divorce can strip everything you own into equal shares, barring a prenuptial agreement. That is why one must see if it is possible to come to an amicable settlement without the need to get a lawyer on board. The time and expense involved with legal fees only goes on to make things bitter. Trust me… I spent a fortune in order to resolve things. 

Why

When making this decision, the motives behind it must be clear. Is it because you have found someone else? In that case, be careful as the grass is not always greener on the other side. Or perhaps you discovered that your partner was unfaithful and therefore left with no choice but to end things. Be clear in your mind and stick to it. 

Feelings

Having feelings for your partner may not be enough to stop someone from getting a divorce. After all, you can still care for someone even after you have separated. Consider whether you love them enough to work out your problems, as well as if you are willing to put the hard work in. Do the ends justify the means, or is it merely delaying the inevitable break up? 

These are some of the things to bear in mind, but ultimately, each person knows what is right for them. Once a divorce has been concluded, there is no going back. That is why it must be done with full conviction. 

 Hasib Afzal

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