Break Up: Is The Glass Half Full Or Half Empty?

 Going through a break up can be devastating. One minute you’re high as a kite, the next it all comes crashing down. That does not mean that life has to be over. In fact, it could be just the beginning. Whether the glass is half full or half empty is all about perspective. Remember the person you were before, and that is something to look to when the chips are down. 

This is exactly what I did when my marriage turned sour. Going from traveling the world, I found myself back in the UK. And with the pandemic not going away anytime soon, I was surprised to find I had so much to say. A few months later, I started my own blog. And what do you know, I ended up writing this very post!

So here is what you can expect….

Rediscovering yourself

With all that free time now available at your fingertips, what better way to live your life by going out and showing yourself to the world. Gone are the days where your life was strictly regimented and ultimately at the behest of your partner. Now there are no rules, no restrictions. The world is your oyster, so what are you waiting for...get out there. 

Surround yourself with positive people

When your relationship ends, that is when you find out who your friends are. Not everyone will be there to welcome you with open arms and offer their support. You’d be surprised by the vultures and cries of ‘I told you so, she was not right for you’. But in and amongst those people will be those who care for you. Spend time with them, and remember them when times are good.

Try something new

New year resolutions don’t have to be just for the new year. It’s amazing what you can learn if you put your mind to it. All it takes is a little to-do-list to map out your thoughts and before you know it, you’ve picked up a new hobby. It could be a new language, a new dish or a new skill. There is really no excuse not to. 

Think

Thinking and reflecting is a part of life. Don’t exalt over what you have and don’t cry over what alludes you. That principle applies to anything including a relationship. Think about all the positives that can emerge from starting afresh. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. A new job, a new city can do you the world of good… and who knows maybe a new partner will come along. 

Just as we began with the concept of perspective, it is important to bear in mind that each person is different. Some take longer to overcome that heartache, but at the end of it all, you realize your self-worth. No one is worth crying over forever for. 
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