Divorced or Blessed?

Divorced or Blessed? I kicked negativity out of my life

If you want to get a dose of motivation after getting divorced, then there is no better thing than reading this post. I swear, it can change the way you think, how you pursue life, and alter the concept of darkness and loneliness after divorce. 

Yes, I am divorced and I am happy... happier than ever before. I admit life has been tough on me. But, I still believe that the positivity bestowed by the divorce has had a tremendous impact on my life. I know the real face of society, I can solve mysteries, I can deal with the anxieties of life, and lastly, I can make successful deals. All because I have thrown all the NEGATIVITY out of my life.

Want to know what other wonders 'divorce' did for me? Let me share those incredible gifts of life, one by one...

Confidence

Early days after divorce can make you feel worthless; you may lose your self-esteem, and have dark thoughts... (And that's true)

But not in my case. I gathered up my courage, faced the people, and fought for myself. 

Instead of devastating my imagination with what happened to me, I cultivated confidence in myself. It was hard to survive, but I never gave up. I went against all odds and absorbed all the pressures from the people around me. 

This made me stronger, and confident. YES, Hamza is now a TOUGH guy!

Empathy

For someone who has been through traumas, and seen the harshness of life I truly understand how to deal with depressed hearts. Empathy allows you to console the oppressed and see life from their perspectives. 

I know the struggle after loss. Proudly saying, I have always helped others get out of tough situations. An act of kindness provides strength to the hopeless and that is what I have learned from my divorce. 

Thankfulness

Divorce may result in a loss of family, friends, shelter, personality, respect, money, or time... All these things are valuable assets of one's life. It is a setback for anyone, but it triggered gratitude inside me. 

The loss of these things cultivates a sense of thankfulness. I know now to value things and the people surrounding me. Those who shouldered me in difficult times made me realize and be thankful for all I have in life. 

The more thankful you are, the lesser the pain gets after divorce. 

Individuality

You must have read this phrase on the internet, 'Single & ready to mingle' but no one ever thought about de-mingling after marriage and retaining individuality. I felt this right after I divorced my ex. 

Since I consider myself a man of steel, I took it as an encouragement. I revolutionized my thoughts and allowed my mind to think freely. I indulged in healthy activities. I kept myself busy with productive tasks. And never allowed my mind to reinvent the gloomy side of my life. I deceived life... 

I regained my identity. Thanks to my divorce. 

The biggest lesson I got from the divorce is NEVER GIVE UP and one day, you will have what you want. Happiness, health, family, money...everything! 

I am BLESSED… not DIVORCED. What do you think?

Hamza Aslam

When I started Alimonia Life I was unsure of the direction, I just knew that I wanted to
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