There may be times when a mediator is needed to resolve things between two parties. This can be a great way to hash things out quickly.

But even if it does not do so, it is an excellent way of resolving disputes concerning finance, children and property. With that being said, let us look at what the process involves.

Mediation is only necessary when both sides cannot agree. Once you decide that this is something you want to pursue, you need a legally qualified mediator. A skilled mediator will have undergone the necessary training.

However, any agreement that is reached will be drawn up by a family lawyer to make it legally binding. When it came to my divorce, I did not need a mediator as both sides agreed on everything.

Once the process begins, the two people will attend a series of meetings. This is usually done in person, but the pandemic has also made it possible to conduct things virtually.

The specific issues are mapped out, and most couples only need around three sessions to complete everything. However, if children are involved, this may take longer.

A lawyer usually advises both sides on what is considered a fair agreement. This cannot be done by a mediator, as their job is to remain impartial.

And yet, mediators can work alongside lawyers, with the latter even attending some sessions. If an agreement cannot be reached, then a third party may be needed.

This is usually done by way of arbitration or going through the courts. However, as one can expect, this may be more time consuming.

In addition, there are also the hefty legal fees that may follow as a result. Ultimately, it is not an exact science. But if there are any tips that you should consider, then bear in mind the following:

1. Choose your mediator very carefully,

2. Make sure that your voice is heard. You do not want to be in a situation where an agreement does not reflect your wishes, and

3. Mediation is not for everyone.

So if you know someone who has been through this process, make sure you speak to them. And as always, do your due diligence before starting.

Hasib Afzal