Just the word divorce can evoke a whirlwind of emotions, it's a journey that none of us embark upon willingly, but sometimes, life takes unexpected turns. As someone who has experienced the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with divorce, I can say with certainty that healing emotional wounds is a crucial part of moving forward. In this blog post, I'll share my personal journey of coping with grief, anger, and finding the strength to move forward.

Embracing Grief

Grief is an inevitable part of divorce. It's important to acknowledge and embrace the pain that comes with the end of a significant chapter in your life. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, cry if you need to, and give yourself permission to grieve. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to not be okay for a while. After my divorce, I did not enter into the dating world for two years.That allowed me to realize what I wanted, and I am better off for it.

Dealing with Anger

Anger often accompanies divorce, and it can be a powerful and overwhelming emotion. Instead of letting anger consume you, channel it into something positive. Engage in activities that help release the anger, such as exercising, journaling, or talking to a therapist. Remember, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting; it means freeing yourself from the burden of anger. On my off days, I have taken up photography to create new memories. And now I am on course to create a book out of it.

Self-Care

During divorce, it's easy to neglect self-care while navigating the turbulent waters of legal processes and emotional upheaval. However, taking care of yourself is crucial for healing. Find activities that bring you joy and peace, such as practicing yoga, meditating, or indulging in a hobby. Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, as it will provide the foundation for your healing journey. As of now, I am a regular gym-goer, something I never did prior to my divorce.

Rebuilding Your Life

Divorce is an opportunity for a fresh start. Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on rebuilding your life. Set new goals, pursue your passions, and surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and family. Embrace the freedom and possibilities that come with starting a new chapter. Remember, this is your chance to create the life you truly desire. And who knows you could end up writing a blog post like this one.

Coping with a Narcissistic Ex

Dealing with a narcissistic ex-spouse adds another layer of complexity to the divorce process. It's important to set boundaries, maintain clear communication, and prioritize your own well-being. Seek support from a therapist or divorce support group to help navigate the challenges that come. Remember, your mental and emotional health should always come first. In my case, I hired a mediator to settle the finances as quickly as possible which avoided a bitter end.

Divorce is undoubtedly a challenging journey filled with emotional wounds that take time to heal. However, it's also an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Embrace the process of healing, allow yourself to grieve, and find healthy ways to cope with anger for a new you.

 Hasib Afzal