Imagine yourself having no one else in the world - there is only one person with his/her memories, and that is you! 
Talk about the loneliness after divorce... Nothing can be more stressful and traumatizing than feeling alone... Loneliness sucks.  

The good news is, just like other emotions, there are a few techniques to cope with the fear of loneliness. The first and foremost thing is to change your mindset... because being divorced never means you are alone!!!

I understand that the transition phase can be hard... for example, saying 'I' instead of 'we', sleeping alone, cooking food for yourself, and other household activities can make you sit idol and think negatively. 

But, wait... How can being alone be a bad thing? 

It's definitely not. 

Let's face it. Do you remember how uncomfortable and lonely you were when in an unhealthy relationship? The loneliness after divorce is far better than the distress and disrespect you faced in a relationship. So, it is a game of the mindset. You are alone and you have the freedom to live the life of your choice. No restrictions, arguments and disputes whatsoever. 

Stop perceiving loneliness as a bad thing, take it as a chance to live on your terms. Being lonely gives you opportunities to experience things that you always wished you had. You have no one to worry about, so you can try everything like hiking, yoga, going to the library, or eating all day. There is no hurdle, so free up your arms and dive into the world of desires. It's your time... Enjoy!

One of the best ways to deal with loneliness after divorce is to embrace a loving mindset. Keep things that trigger your past at a distance. Photos of happy couples or people getting married might urge you to miss your ex and the times spent together. 

Focus on your passion and goals and keep your mind busy with good things like playing with pets, meditation, shopping, etc. Discover your inner self and adopt happiness in life. Chat with your buddies, go to parties and have fun. See what makes you happy. It will take some time, but the outcome will cure your loneliness. 

Alright, we have now discovered the pain points and rays of happiness in our life after divorce. Now is the time to ask yourself... 

How can I spend an amazing life? What are some ways that I can eliminates loneliness?  

But, how to build a bridge between triggers and happiness? 

The next time you see a friend getting married on Instagram, scroll through that picture and think about helping the needy, go the gym, learning something, running your business. 

Keep yourself busy and do things that amuse you. Keep trying new activities and after some time, you will hardly feel the pain of separation. 

If you can't go out, stay in and cook your favorite meal and enjoy dinner while watching a movie. Overcome the fear, go beyond the boundaries and think positive to heal quickly. 

Believe me, the day you start loving yourself will be the day when you kick loneliness out of your life. 

Hamza Aslam